Exile from Babyville

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To the pushy woman who came up to me on the sidewalk yesterday, advised me that the "baby is cold", and then tried to pull the hood down on my stroller, YOU WEREN'T BEING HELPFUL!  Yes, I know it was drizzly and windy and kind of cold outside, and yes, I know my kids were crabbing and whining, but that doesn't gives you the right to come up to a complete stranger and try to physically impose your will on her.  Unless I'm beating my kids in the street it's none of your business, and all you succeeded in doing was showing what a rude, insensitive and obnoxious person you really are.

So maybe you need to think about that before you try handing out any more mommy drive-bys in the future.

Before And After

Before I had kids I have to admit that I fell into that camp of people who really didn't care about the amazing new things other people's kids were doing.  But I have to begrudgingly admit that I now get how amazing and exciting it is when the wee one starts cruising and walking and talking and so on.  I still try not to get to braggy about what the boys are up to though, especially with women who get all competitive about it in a "my kid is smarter and better" kind of way. 

And yet, a common partly tongue-in-cheek comment often uttered by M and I to describe one of the boys is "the kid is a genius."  When Max figured out how to climb over the baby gate by pushing his ride on car over to it and then hoisting himself up and over, we said it in with a combination of horror and amazement.  And as Nathan began to speak in sentences that statement became even more used and abused.  (Shameless bragging alert!)  So, yes, Nathan already speaks in sentences at 21 months old.  Max, not so much but he is starting to figure out how to string words together.  Most days Nathan likes to remind me that Daddy left and went to work, and that he hears a train, or a bus or a car outside the window (I heared it Mommy, I hear a bus outside! he'll crow with excitement.)  He also likes to recount what happened on Sesame Street that morning, and tell me about how George is a monkey and that his friend is the Man with the Yellow Hat.

So I try to keep most of the stories of the new and amazing things the boys are doing to a minimum with my friends and social acquaintances, and reserve the more effusive commentary for family only.  Much like I feel like I still need to be respectful of the issues my infertile friends may still be facing, I feel like I need to respect the fact that only my very good friends like to hear funny stories about M&N and that childless friends may have relatively little interest in the quotidian aspects of every day life with twin toddlers.  I suppose one of the reasons I wanted to revive this blog was because it gives me an outlet to discuss and explore some of these things in a way I just can't in my every day life. 

I have a lot more to say about how rapidly the boys are growing and developing, but for now I feel the desperate need to catch a quick nap before the kids wake up from theirs.

Oh, and thanks for the shout outs MotherLawyer and Heather!!!!  It's definitely good to be back.

Exile Version 3.0

Wow, it's been about a year or so since my last post to my poor, neglected blog.  So much has happened in the meanwhile, M&N had their first birthday, took their first steps, and learned their first words.  Of course plenty has stayed the same, I am still doing the SAHM gig with them and we are still cramped into our 1,300 sf place in the City. 

I've meant so many times to come back and revive this blog and talk about the thoughts that float through my tired brain, but that would involve getting my tired and sleep-deprived derriere off the couch and at the computer long enough to put something thoughtful together (which is probably also why I haven't put much effort into the job search thing either...)   Alas, all the fun stuff that goes along with being a sleep deprived and busy SAHM (like the volumes of laundry taunting me every day and the piles of toys that must be put away so that I can actually make my way through the living room) have taken away all of my motivation to write stuff on this blog by the time I'm done with them. 

That is until recently, when I really started to feel the pull of blogging once again.  The thing is I enjoy writing down my thoughts, sorting through them, and trying to make sense of them.  This blog had given me the outlet to do exactly that, until the boys came along and the blog starting to feel like something that required more effort that I could possibly muster.  But now that they are older, more independant, and even learning the rudimentary aspects of talking back and arguing with Mommy, I feel like I need this outlet again to put my thoughts out there, with the possibility that some people may stop by to read, or in the alternative that nobody will care to read at all. 

So there you have it.  Exile From Babyville, Version 3.0 starts today.  I'll probably still talk about some of the fertility related stuff that I think about from time to time, as well as the boys, the husband, and whether or not I will end up lawyering ever again.

If anyone out there is reading please feel free to leave your comments and let me know what you think!